'I want to dump my girlfriend because she's poor'

I rarely get into relationships, however, one night I met a girl and we instantly became girlfriends. Now I've been trying to backtrack and play the "getting to know you game." She mentioned she was in debt, which was initially a complete turn off seeing as how I love money and despise all people with poor spending habits. And when I questioned her about why she was in debt, she got very defensive and basically said it was none of my business. I think it is my business, especially if she has some sort of gambling or drug problem she hides. Am I being rational for wanting to know and setting myself up for future success and avoiding pain down the road? Or are there really just some things that are "off-limits" conversations. I want to dump her because she is "poor." I know that sounds awful but it's the truth, and I don't want to play the mommy in the relationship. I am 21 and she is 29. I figured an older woman would have their stuff together more than someone my age.

Anna Pulley, @annapulley

November 10, 2011