I was going to say that Facebook-friending a date before meeting them was a bold move, but as I was typing that, I got a notification on FB from a former booty call’s now ex-girlfriend, whom I’ve never met in person. So, there goes that. This is our reality now. We have far more interactions face-to-Facebook than we do in person. That said, it’s still your party and you can deny if you want to.
Unless, it’s not! Also in the Match study (It’s an infographic, so, “study,” grain of salt, blah blah.) was the part that you’re probably afraid of: 38 percent of singles canceled a date because of something they found while researching online. Better hide them Olivia Newton-John albums, son. Or she might fall in love with you.
I think your sample dialogue above is a perfectly reasonable request if you’re concerned that her curiosity will kill the LOLcat. You could also accept her request only after you’ve filtered your profile to an acceptable level of pre-date info. But that seems like a pain, doesn’t it? Besides, what if your date goes well? Will you then give in? There’s a wide chasm between “met them once” and “very, very, very connected” and sooner or later your date will want to have access to your coffee foam art and opinions on “Sharknado,” the sequel. It’s up to you when that should happen, of course, but try not to panic too much if she’s more familiar with your Facebook rather than your actual face.
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