Advice: Am I leading my friend on?
Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake in "Friends With Benefits": ridiculously good-looking (Sony Screen Gems / July 19, 2011)
You’re not leading him on, What Now. He’s leading himself on. But either way, it would definitely benefit your now benefit-less friendship if you made yourself less available to him for a while. How much time and space apart is up to you, but make it a clean break: no texts or calls and, as you’ve already noted, no more playing hide the peach gobbler.
You can be friends again with this guy when he can honestly answer that he’ll be happy for you when you start dating or sleeping with somebody else. It is, unfortunately (fortunately?), on you to be the boundary-keeper of this break/change in the relationship with your hopefully-soon-to-be-platonic friend. But remember that the short-term heartache (both his and yours) will be worth it in the long haul, when you can look back as pals and share funny sex stories from boners gone by.
I’ve been sexually active for over 10 years. I've been dating my girlfriend for about two years now and sometimes I can't keep it hard for her. Also it's embarrassing to say but with her I never really ejaculated from the sex. I can come If I'm masturbating but not when we have sex. Have you heard this before?--Mr. X
Of course, I’ve heard this before. It’s the only reason I attend those NRA Women’s Leadership luncheons (though the mini-quiches come in at a close second). It sounds like there could be two reasons why you can’t ejaculate from sex: anxiety or too much of the same masturbation routine. (There’s also a third medical possibility, but you’d have to consult a doctor about that, and I don’t mean WebMD). I’d suggest adapting your jerkin’ routine. Your member may simply be accustomed to the way you touch it, which isn’t easily replicated by a woman. Switch hands, use a condom, loosen your grip -- basically teach it to respond to a different touch and see if that helps. You could also try masturbating until you’re reeeeally close to orgasm and then let her finish you off. The trick is to reprogram your little brain so that it’s receptive to partners other than your trusty hand.
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