I'm trying to get over my ex-girlfriend who cheated on and dumped me. I've done so by cutting her out of my life completely, defriending her on Facebook, the whole shebang. But I still think about her constantly. And I've taken to writing her letters, but not sending them, as a way to cope with the urges I have to contact her. Is it helpful to have an outlet or am I just reinforcing my obsession with her?
If that doesn't sound like you? Great. You're probably fine then. Sometimes the best person to converse with is yourself, especially when your friends grow tired of your emo, Pete Wentz-ian ways. Realize that your life is ultimately better when you have good people who legitimately care about you in. As long as you know that, then you can pen as many unsent missives as you please.
Oh, you're a lesbian! Answer me this. What is roller derby, exactly?
I'm pretty sure Drew Barrymore already solved (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1172233/) this baffling conundrum. But fine. If memory serves, "roller derby" is one of many excuses lesbians use to get drunk in the suburbs during the daytime. Other leisurely lush activities include: kickball, brunch, and attending a Unitarian Universal church service.