A wife's denial leaves a husband hopeless

I am very depressed and confused. I have been married 16 years. My wife has cheated on me several times in the past. She was laid off work for two years ago and started hanging at the local loser bar just about every day. This made me very upset. She told me it is to get "out of the house" and to socialize. She promised me nothing was going on. She was pretty much drunk almost every day. Six months ago, I got an anonymous letter in the mail saying, "Your wife isn't who you think she is." Again she said nothing is going on. I recently went to her watering hole and some barfly and a bunch of dudes were on the other side of the bar. I overheard the woman tell the dudes that she wanted to introduce them to my wife. One of the dudes said, "Oh, she's the woman I heard so much about. I heard a lot about her. A lot!" Again she said nothing is going on. What am I supposed to think and do? She denies anything remotely is going on.

Anna Pulley, @annapulley

February 8, 2012