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Advice: Should I act on my same-sex crush?
I'm 29 years old and have always sort of felt like I was in a "grey area" sexually, not overwhelming attracted to girls (though I did notice them), but not overwhelmingly attracted to guys on a physical level either (in fact, of the guys I've dated, I've never felt any real physical kind of connection toward them. Before, I thought it was just because we were a bad match, but now I wonder). I've gotten crushes on both girls and guys before but just thought maybe I had the crushes on the girls because I was attracted to a quality of theirs (nice hair/friendly/outgoing/etc.). Lately, though, I've been wondering whether my feelings might actually be because I'm bi or gay. I've never been with a girl before, and, while I like guys, I feel sometimes like I'd be more "myself" around a girl. Problem is, my family is not someone I could ever come out to (they're a little on the judgmental side, to put it lightly) and I don't know how my friends would react. So right now, I'm feeling a little like the feelings I have (I've got a pretty decent crush on a friend of mine who's a girl) are kind of in my head or something.
Anna Pulley, @annapulley
February 5, 2014