David Tutera has been planning weddings for 25 years — including celebrity weddings for ex-"View" co-host Star Jones and ex-New York Giant Antonio Pierce — but the star of the WE network’s “My Fair Wedding” says it hasn’t been until the last five years that grooms took a bigger interest in the decision-making process. He believes this is due in large part to the popularity of wedding programming on television.
Yes, men watch it too.
“Cops and firemen tell me they watch the show and find it funny,” Tutera said over the phone Monday. “I also hear from athletes who watch the show and love it. They say ‘Don’t tell anyone I watch the show.’ … One (athlete) you would never guess, and one who recently got engaged.”
In addition to the 18 weddings he planned on the fifth season of “My Fair Wedding,” Tutera estimates he planned 12 of the 100 weddings his party planning business organized last year.
He will share his advice for brides when he speaks at Bridal Expo 2012 at the Rialto Square Theatre in Joliet Sunday. As for Tutera’s advice for grooms who want some say in the wedding planning process, you can find it right here:
There’s no backing out of the planning process: “My advice for any groom who wants to be involved is to make a commitment to planning the wedding,” said Tutera, who has planned weddings at the Field Museum and the Chicago Botanic Garden. “You can’t start and then pull out.”
Don’t be a ‘yes’ man …: “That’s the worst thing the groom can do,” Tutera said. “Don’t say yes to say yes. If you don’t like pink, say you don’t like pink.”
… But know your role: “The groom has to know when is the right time to step back,” Tutera said. “The groom who wants to be involved can’t be with the bride shopping for dresses and flowers.” So what can the groom help with? “Maybe they can be part of the budget and finding the venue and finding the entertainment,” Tutera said. “Let the bride be the bride. This is their moment.”
Be careful when taking sides: “You don’t want to upset (your future mother-in-law) if you don’t have a concrete relationship,” Tutera said of a possible disagreement between the bride and her mother. Who should get final say? “Unfortunately, whoever pays for the wedding has the final decision,” Tutera said.
Leave the sports theme for birthday parties: “Most guys are pretty savvy enough to know a (New England) Patriots-themed wedding is not going to work.” Tutera said. “But if an NBA fan wants a basketball groom’s cake, we can do it. It’s OK to fit their personality in there.”